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Discover What is Already There

July 2nd, 2009

Wisdom - Seeds of Light

"Every day we slaughter our finest impulses. That is why we get a heartache when we read those lines written by the hand of a master and recognize them as our own, as the tender shoots which we stifled because we lacked the faith to believe in our own powers, our own criterion of truth and beauty …

We are all part of creation, all kings, all poets, all musicians; we have only to open up, only to discover what is already there."  

~ Henry Miller 

Thanks to Greg Smith.

 

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Paul Hawken: A Direct, Naked, Shivering, Startling, Graceful Talk

May 19th, 2009

I read this beautiful speech over at Mary Jaksch’s beautiful blog Good Life Zen. I loved it so much I re-printed it here in full. Enjoy! 

YOU ARE BRILLIANT, AND THE EARTH IS HIRING.

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“Basically, the earth needs a new operating system, you are the programmers, and we need it within a few decades.”

Read this amazing talk by Paul Hawken:

Commencement Address to the Class of 2009

University of Portland

When I was invited to give this speech, I was asked if I could give a simple short talk that was “direct, naked, taut, honest, passionate, lean, shivering, startling, and graceful.” Boy, no pressure there.

But let’s begin with the startling part. Hey, Class of 2009: you are going to have to figure out what it means to be a human being on earth at a time when every living system is declining, and the rate of decline is accelerating. Kind of a mind-boggling situation – but not one peer-reviewed paper published in the last thirty years can refute that statement. 

Basically, the earth needs a new operating system, you are the programmers, and we need it within a few decades.

This planet came with a set of operating instructions, but we seem to have misplaced them. Important rules like don’t poison the water, soil, or air, and don’t let the earth get overcrowded, and don’t touch the thermostat have been broken. Buckminster Fuller said that spaceship earth was so ingeniously designed that no one has a clue that we are on one, flying through the universe at a million miles per hour, with no need for seatbelts, lots of room in coach, and really good food – but all that is changing.

There is invisible writing on the back of the diploma you will receive, and in case you didn’t bring lemon juice to decode it, I can tell you what it says: YOU ARE BRILLIANT, AND THE EARTH IS HIRING. The earth couldn’t afford to send any recruiters or limos to your school. It sent you rain, sunsets, ripe cherries, night blooming jasmine, and that unbelievably cute person you are dating. Take the hint. And here’s the deal: Forget that this task of planet-saving is not possible in the time required. Don’t be put off by people who know what is not possible. Do what needs to be done, and check to see if it was impossible only after you are done.

When asked if I am pessimistic or optimistic about the future, my answer is always the same: If you look at the science about what is happening on earth and aren’t pessimistic, you don’t understand data. But if you meet the people who are working to restore this earth and the lives of the poor, and you aren’t optimistic, you haven’t got a pulse. What I see everywhere in the world are ordinary people willing to confront despair, power, and incalculable odds in order to restore some semblance of grace, justice, and beauty to this world. The poet Adrienne Rich wrote,

“So much has been destroyed I have cast my lot with those who, age after age, perversely, with no extraordinary power, reconstitute the world.”

There could be no better description. Humanity is coalescing. It is reconstituting the world, and the action is taking place in schoolrooms, farms, jungles, villages, campuses, companies, refuge camps, deserts, fisheries, and slums.

You join a multitude of caring people. No one knows how many groups and organizations are working on the most salient issues of our day: climate change, poverty, deforestation, peace, water, hunger, conservation, human rights, and more. This is the largest movement the world has ever seen.

Rather than control, it seeks connection. Rather than dominance, it strives to disperse concentrations of power. Like Mercy Corps, it works behind the scenes and gets the job done. Large as it is, no one knows the true size of this movement. It provides hope, support, and meaning to billions of people in the world. Its clout resides in idea, not in force. It is made up of teachers, children, peasants, businesspeople, rappers, organic farmers, nuns, artists, government workers, fisherfolk, engineers, students, incorrigible writers, weeping Muslims, concerned mothers, poets, doctors without borders, grieving Christians, street musicians, the President of the United States of America, and as the writer David James Duncan would say, the Creator, the One who loves us all in such a huge way.

There is a rabbinical teaching that says if the world is ending and the Messiah arrives, first plant a tree, and then see if the story is true.

“Inspiration is not garnered from the litanies of what may befall us; it resides in humanity’s willingness to restore, redress, reform, rebuild, recover, reimagine, and reconsider.”

“One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice,” is Mary Oliver’s description of moving away from the profane toward a deep sense of connectedness to the living world.

Millions of people are working on behalf of strangers, even if the evening news is usually about the death of strangers. This kindness of strangers has religious, even mythic origins, and very specific eighteenth-century roots. Abolitionists were the first people to create a national and global movement to defend the rights of those they did not know. Until that time, no group had filed a grievance except on behalf of itself. The founders of this movement were largely unknown – Granville Clark, Thomas Clarkson, Josiah Wedgwood – and their goal was ridiculous on the face of it: at that time three out of four people in the world were enslaved. Enslaving each other was what human beings had done for ages. And the abolitionist movement was greeted with incredulity. Conservative spokesmen ridiculed the abolitionists as liberals, progressives, do-gooders, meddlers, and activists. They were told they would ruin the economy and drive England into poverty.

But for the first time in history a group of people organized themselves to help people they would never know, from whom they would never receive direct or indirect benefit. And today tens of millions of people do this every day. It is called the world of non-profits, civil society, schools, social entrepreneurship, and non-governmental organizations, of companies who place social and environmental justice at the top of their strategic goals. The scope and scale of this effort is unparalleled inhistory.

“The living world is not “out there” somewhere, but in your heart.”

What do we know about life? In the words of biologist Janine Benyus, life creates the conditions that are conducive to life. I can think of no better motto for a future economy. We have tens of thousands of abandoned homes without people and tens of thousands of abandoned people without homes. We have failed bankers advising failed regulators on how to save failed assets.

Think about this: we are the only species on this planet without full employment. Brilliant. We have an economy that tells us that it is cheaper to destroy earth in real time than to renew, restore, and sustain it. You can print money to bail out a bank but you can’t print life to bail out a planet.

At present we are stealing the future, selling it in the present, and calling it gross domestic product. We can just as easily have an economy that is based on healing the future instead of stealing it. We can either create assets for the future or take the assets of the future. One is called restoration and the other exploitation. And whenever we exploit the earth we exploit people and cause untold suffering. Working for the earth is not a way to get rich, it is a way to be rich.

The first living cell came into being nearly 40 million centuries ago, and its direct descendants are in all of our bloodstreams. Literally you are breathing molecules this very second that were inhaled by Moses, Mother Teresa, and Bono. We are vastly interconnected. Our fates are inseparable. We are here because the dream of every cell is to become two cells. In each of you are one quadrillion cells, 90 percent of which are not human cells.

Your body is a community, and without those other microorganisms you would perish in hours. Each human cell has 400 billion molecules conducting millions of processes between trillions of atoms. The total cellular activity in one human body is staggering: one septillion actions at any one moment, a one with twenty-four zeros after it. In a millisecond, our body has undergone ten times more processes than there are stars in the universe – exactly what Charles Darwin foretold when he said science would discover that each living creature was a “little universe, formed of a host of self-propagating organisms, inconceivably minute and as numerous as the stars of heaven.”

So I have two questions for you all: First, can you feel your body? Stop for a moment. Feel your body. One septillion activities going on simultaneously, and your body does this so well you are free to ignore it, and wonder instead when this speech will end. Second question: who is in charge of your body? Who is managing those molecules? Hopefully not a political party. Life is creating the conditions that are conducive to life inside you, just as in all of nature. What I want you to imagine is that collectively humanity is evincing a deep innate wisdom in coming together to heal the wounds and insults of the past.

Ralph Waldo Emerson once asked what we would do if the stars only came out once every thousand years. No one would sleep that night, of course. The world would become religious overnight. We would be ecstatic, delirious, made rapturous by the glory of God. Instead the stars come out every night, and we watch television.

This extraordinary time when we are globally aware of each other and the multiple dangers that threaten civilization has never happened, not in a thousand years, not in ten thousand years. Each of us is as complex and beautiful as all the stars in the universe. We have done great things and we have gone way off course in terms of honoring creation.

You are graduating to the most amazing, challenging, stupefying challenge ever bequested to any generation. The generations before you failed. They didn’t stay up all night. They got distracted and lost sight of the fact that life is a miracle every moment of your existence. Nature beckons you to be on her side. You couldn’t ask for a better boss. The most unrealistic person in the world is the cynic, not the dreamer. Hopefulness only makes sense when it doesn’t make sense to be hopeful. This is your century. Take it and run as if your life depends on it.

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Everything Changes

April 30th, 2009

changesChange. Such a simple looking word. Yet it is profound. Within those 6 letters lie new worlds, fresh opportunities and new lives. They bring joy and sadness, sorrow and grace. And, yet, change is the simple in and out breath of life.

So often we hang on to circumstances and situations. Clinging to some cherished past, some idea of who we think we are, or position or status. Whatever it may be, let it go. Beyond the safe harbor of the known… of what we know and love and hang on to now- around the bend lies new life. We get in the way with all of our gnashing of teeth and clutching postures.

You see, if you really step back and look at it. It is there for us all to see. We were hard-wired to survive. And how do we survive? We adapt, we change. Change is the most basic constant and the greatest skill we have as humans. We can see across long spans of generations the sweeping changes and tenacity of spirit that has been passed down to each of individually and all of us collectively.

We live in an extraordinary moment. This is our moment. We are the generation that will determine the very survival of our species. I want you to really take that in for a moment and BREATHE! Yes it is true. The climate statistics are staggering…

United Nations Environment Programme

But no problem is beyond solving. And, what we know already is that we are hard-wired to survive. This is our moment. We have vast creative reserves. We have a billion years of biological imperative running through our veins. We also have incredibly underutilized intelligence and skill in children starving to death or languishing in the streets and factories, instead of being in school. In women kept ignorant and locked out of politics around the world.

The child sewing that shoe in Thailand is just as much our daughter as our own. That boy without love or hope in Los Angeles deserves better so he can do better. The imperative for survival remains, the rules of the game have changed.

No longer is it a viable option to have every man, or tribe or race or neighborhood for him or themselves. This change requires us all, our collective wisdom.

It also requires that we each free ourselves from the survival beliefs that have become straight-jackets keeping us from expressing our brilliance.

Doing our work of healing the lies and wounding we have inherited; expanding our world-view to include everyone and everything; and, living in harmony with nature will transform our lives and world. We will live, work, love and play in new ways.

It is right there. You have the ideas, the skills, the answers. We need you to share them with us. Let’s get busy.

Breathe-in and breathe-out… CHANGE. Thank you.

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"The dogmas of the quiet past are inadequate to the stormy present. The occasion is piled high with difficulty, and we must rise with the occasion. As our case is new, so we must think anew and act anew."  ~ Abraham Lincoln

 

Like what you are reading? Give me a call. Marla Durden (713) 231.3568  www.NewStoryforAmerica.com

 

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Its a Great Day to Be Grateful!

April 13th, 2009

 

Timeless wisdom and great advice. I am grateful that I found this video. Thanks Robert Grant

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Change

April 1st, 2009

Sweep over Mt. Esja

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. 

~Anatole France

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Happy Spring Equinox

March 23rd, 2009

Spring… time of fresh starts, new beginnings and dreams… enjoy

 

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Step Up

March 21st, 2009

Breathe.There are times in life when we are called to step up. These moments are not the ordinary ones. Usually they come at times of great stress or change. We are given a choice. Do we continue down the road we have been traveling or do we make a turn, a shift? Do we answer the sometimes subtle call of a new life or do we stay safe, even if "safety" means less life and vitality?

We are at such a moment. Right now, today. You, me, your neighbor, your cousin Freddie… This is our moment. The unraveling of our over-heated economy, deepening poverty and drum-beat of alarming climate statistics represent the fork in our collective road. We know where it will take us. The evidence is laid before us in scientific data and expert analysis by our most brilliant minds.

Change can be difficult and it can be exhilirating. It is in moments of great stress that we can be our most creative. It is when our backs seem to be against the wall that we summon some heretofore untapped inner reserves. This is our moment. We humans have tremendous depths of inner strength, ingenuity and resilience. These skills and capacities have been honed over millions of years of survival and evolution. Our ancestors often survived near insurmountable obstacles. We are the recipients of their tenacity. Passed on to us in our DNA, our very biology and through skills of living passed down from one generation to another. We also have the innate quality of soul/spirit. It is who and what we are.

We have reached the tipping point. We are now coming to terms with the reality that we collectively have the capacity to live ourselves out of a planet. Or better said, that we now have the capacity to live ourselves off the planet. This is good news. Because, it also means that we have the capacities and tools to create an incredible life for us all… a life that is in harmony with our environment home and each other. Our powerful ability to think, reason and judge can now be our tools for literally transforming life as we know it… my life, your life, your childrens’ lives and the lives of people all over the world.

What is needed is a transformation in values, an expansion of our world-view to include every life as sacred, honorable and valuable. What is truly important? I mean truly? What feeds and nourishes our deepest needs? Is it mindless consumption or tick-tocking through life on auto-pilot? You know where this is going.forkintheroad4

The answer is very simple as they say, but not necessarily easy. And yet, on another level it is very easy, because it is hard-wired into our DNA. We are hard-wired to survive. We have made it this far by design, our destiny sculpted for us one tiny strand at a time by the thoughts and experiences of our ancestors.

But something is a little different now. In coaching my clients, a recurrent theme is arising. We are finding that often the very skills and beliefs around what to do and how to survive that allowed their grandparents and parents to survive and thrive have become straight jackets, keeping them from stepping up to the plate of their lives in new more fulfilling ways. What is required now is more quantum. The landscape is changing fast. This is new terrain. There are no road maps. We get to blaze the trail and create the maps of this new territory of our lives and collective existence. And, we have the innate knowing and wisdom to do it. Indeed, for this we were made.

Take off the straight jacket. We honor all that we have been given. We take the best and leave the rest. Dare to look down the road, even if you can’t see very far. Leave the baggage of outmoded beliefs and open your mind. Participate and STEP-UP. Let your genius shine.

The world needs you now. We need you. Thank you.

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.”

- Helen Keller

 Peace

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How to Maintain Your Flow in the Midst of Bad News

February 17th, 2009

If you are like me, every time you turn on any news, you hear an onslaught of doom and gloom about the economy. Yes, we do know that many people are suffering and dealing with the difficult circumstances life has thrown them. My heart goes out to you. We find ourselves at a remarkable moment and regardless of whether we are personally dealing with job loss or down-turns in our businesses, we will be served by working to maintain our emotional and mental balance.

I know personally how devastating loss and significant change can be. When we are faced with the loss of something dear or important to us, it is human nature to want to hang on. There are times to hang on and times to relax and let go, allowing the current of life to carry us to a new shore and better horizons.

The whole concept of allowing can seem counter to our cultural character as Americans and Westerners. However, this very real skill can make the difference in our lives and success.

Neuroscience teaches us that when we find ourselves in panic or fight or flight, blood leaves the brain and goes to the center of the body as we use most of our energy going to physical survival. Our higher mental functioning is impaired and our choices then seem limited to survival. When I have found myself in this situation, my productivity, creativity and ability to perceive possibilities deeply impaired. Maybe this is true for you as well?

Outliers: The Story of Success In his book, Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell talks about a study where they tracked a group of very bright kids, with exceptionally high IQ to see how that would translate into success as adults. The study almost to a person found that the #1 factor that limited success was poverty. The kids from impoverished families did uniformly more poorly than those who were not. Poverty mentality or cirmcumstances that keep us locked in survival mode impair our ability to access our natrual genuis.

This knowledge informs us of the "danger" of the moment in which we live. In my opinion, the danger is not the news, though I in no way belittle the difficult situations in which many of us find ourselves. The danger is allowing it to box in our genuis, limit our perceived choices, water down our creativity, sap our spirit.

Here are a few things you can do to maintain your balance:

  1. Go on a news diet- turn it off, turn it down, let it go. You will be amazed at how much better you’ll feel.
  2. Affirm your worth- no matter what you are going through or how bad the news is you are a good person and you will thrive.
  3. Expand your perspective- remember that the earth is still fertile, the sun shines no less than yesterday, the trees aren’t forcing out another leaf and you still have people in your life you love you. Trust that we live in a benevolent Universe that wants us to be happy. Allow it to bring you opportunities and well-being.
  4. Surround yourself with positive people- we live in an ‘energy soup’ with those around us. A key factor in success is associating with successful people. Hang and network with people who are moving forward in their lives and careers. Keep the good vibes going.
  5. Move your body- exercise releases endorphins which clear our heads and elevates our moods.
  6. Give/Volunteer- nothing makes us more grateful than giving, especially when we consider how difficult life is for others.
  7. Get inspired- read inspiring stories, blogs and subscribe to daily notes. A few I like are Abraham-Hicks, Notes from the Universe and the Good News Network. A great blog is Zen Habits.
  8. Know thyself- The people over at Heart Math have been showing people how to manage stress and change for many years. They have a great Stress and Well-being Survey that is very insightful. Check out the many other great resource they offer as well.
  9. Watch your thoughts- imagination is the first act of creation. Make it a daily habit and lifestyle to manage your thoughts, energy and outlook positively. Remember the old adage and quote I posted on this blog a couple of months ago:
  10. Be gentle with yourself- So, if you slip and get into a down mood, don’t then make it worst by picking up the stick of guilt and shame and beat yourself with it. Put it down, step away from the stick. Thank it for keeping you honest and keep moving.

Here’s to staying in the flow.

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Debut of My Radio Show

February 11th, 2009

I am so excited and a little nervous. This Thursday, February 12th, I will debut my radio show,

New Stories for America | New Stories for Houston

 

You are invited to listen in at Houston KPFT 90.1 FM, Thursday, February 12th 12:00 to 1:00pm.

My guests will be:

Dr. Stephen Klineberg, Sociology Professor at Rice University and author for the last 28 years of the Houston Area Survey
 

 


Kym King Program Associate at Demos Center for the Public Sector and host of the KPFT show First Tuesdays with Kym King.

 

Our Topic: It’s a New Day in America, now what?

If you miss the show, you can always listen online or download the show at http://archive.kpft.org/

And, since this is my audition, if you like what you hear, please contact the Program Director, Ernesto Aguilar at 713-526-4000 ext. 308 or email him at ernestomedia@gmail.com. Thank you!

 

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Six Little Words That Say So Much

January 25th, 2009

APTOPIX Obama Inauguration Home States BallSix little words. “How great does my wife look?” President Obama honored his wife, Michelle before saying anything else at the first Inaugural Ball- the Neighborhood Ball. He proclaimed his love for his wife and his respect for the beauty of feminine essence, first… to the entire neighborhood.

This says so much about this man and marks many of the qualities that make him such a great leader.

The feminine aspect of life is powerful, potent and lovely all at the same time. It is creative, juicy and sensuous. It tends to look at the horizon, rather than to the point. Our world lost much of its sweetness over the centuries as we came to over-value the masculine aspects of reason, logic, analysis and focus. We forgot how deeply nourishing the feminine could be. We forgot how deep listening, softness, emotional intimacy and play brought the juice to life. We see its traces all around us as we awaken slowly from the slumber of a by-gone age. Keeping a stiff upper lip is just not cutting it anymore. We need both. We need insightful, cutting analysis and the sweetness of relaxation and the lovely things of life.

Now, President Obama has put us on notice that the wheels of time and the destiny of a people have indeed turned. This is a great day for America and for us all as global citizens. We have a leader. And, he understands that we can do this. We can achieve our potential as a people, as Americans and as global citizens. But, we must do it in new ways and with “new” tools. Our collective challenges have grown so formidable that we are called to focus and dream, to cut and to create. We can do this.

It is time for us to lead- you know what to do (and if you don’t, call me).
And for sweetness… real sweetness. Remember to play and love and to have fun. This is going to be good.

Like what you are reading? Marla can coach you or speak to your group.

Marla Durden | (713) 231-3568
www.newstoryforamerica.com

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